His Fiancé Says Yes to All, But He's Tired of Being the Villain

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Being considerate and offering assistance are positive traits, but there comes a time when being overly kind can simply make you appear weak.

One manadmires the kindness of his fiancée, but her generosity comes with a price.

He is weary of constantly being the one who says “no” when her friends test limits.

She is now upset, and he is questioning whether he is truly at fault.

Let’s read the entire story.

Am I the asshole for being upset that I’m the one who has to say “No” instead of my fiancé?

My fiancée (F26) and I (F24) have been in a relationship for more than two years. From the moment I met her, she has always been very kind and thoughtful.

It’s one of the many aspects I truly adore about her. Nevertheless, I believe it’s reaching a stage where others are starting to exploit her.

Initially, it was small things such as a ride to work, a few dollars, food or dinner, and so on.

Now it’s reaching a stage where her friends will start asking to stay at our house for a few nights, requiring more money, clothing, and even to “rent” from us for several months.

Not cool.

There were several instances when my fiancée, her friend, and I were at our apartment relaxing, and my fiancée would propose getting takeout. She would inquire with her friend about what they wanted, place the order, and have me cover the cost.

Later that night, her friend would inquire if they could stay over.

My fiancé looks at me and says, “Hey, can they stay the night?” While her friend is right there, putting me in the spotlight.

I of course agree because I feel compelled to.

Then a colleague wished to stay the night.

Last week, one of her colleagues asked if they could stay at our house for a couple of nights because they were moving and had to work until 4 a.m.

My fiancé said it was “up to me.”

I explained to her that I wasn’t comfortable allowing someone to stay the night if I didn’t know them personally, or had never met them before.

Here arrives the antagonist.

Today, I picked up my fiancée from her job, and on the way home, she asked if we could take in a roommate.

I inquired why, and she explained that another colleague wished to remain with us for a few months and was prepared to cover their portion of the rent.

I informed her that we didn’t have the room, and I wasn’t prepared to risk breaking the lease for her colleague.

Come on now.

My fiancé and I have been staying apart in our apartment. She prepared a meal but didn’t make one for herself because she’s “too upset to eat since I seem upset with her.”

I explained to her that I often find myself being the one who has to refuse her “friends,” and I believe her “friends” are exploiting her.

She stated, “I’m sorry. I won’t ask again.”

I think she’s not understanding the main idea, and I feel bad for even bringing it up. I’m exhausted from always being the one to say no, but now I’m starting to wonder if I’m being too demanding.

Defending your own home shouldn’t label you as the antagonist—particularly when others fail to establish boundaries for themselves.

Many Reddit users supported the original poster.

This individual highlights the deceptive nature of the fiancé’s behavior.