If you reside in a communal living environment, it’s essential to show respect towards your roommates and strive to prevent conflicts.

What action would you take if one of your roommates attempted to set a curfew for you and dictate the times when you are allowed or not allowed to spend time with other friends?

That is what occurred to the roommate inthis storySo, she broke the curfew and now she’s sorry for creating some conflict.

Check it out.

Am I the asshole for breaking the bedtime rule my roommate established because I spend time with male friends?

I reside in an apartment with four other women.

We are university students who met during our first year and chose to continue living together.

One of the girls (“Anna”) has somewhat assumed an unofficial “flat mom” position.

This appears to be quite ordinary so far.

I usually get along well with the girls and enjoy living with them.

With that said, I’m definitely more connected with my classmates.

My class has mostly male students, so most of my friends are boys. I tend to connect more with them because we have similar interests and pastimes.

Nevertheless, I still have a strong concern for my roommates and often spend time talking with them throughout the day, as well as spending three or four nights a week together for more than three hours each session.

Several weeks ago, Anna mentioned that she believed I was placing too much emphasis on my male friends, which was “taking me away from the flat” and from “more significant activities” such as movie nights at the flat or studying.

She mentioned it was creating conflict in the apartment, so to resolve it, she established a curfew for me—only for me.

This is really weird.

The guidelines were: 1. do not exit the apartment after 6pm without first seeking Anna’s permission, and 2. never go out between 6pm and 9am to meet a man.

I was genuinely surprised.

I didn’t wish to provoke a conflict, so I reluctantly gave in.

I continued to spend time with the group as Anna wished, but everything seemed manipulative, and I just felt sad and out of place.

The girls enjoy makeup, fashion, celebrity news, wine-filled movie evenings, social media conflicts, and I feel uncomfortable, geeky, and somewhat embarrassed when I attempt to participate.

At least the other roommates are sensible.

After roughly a week of adhering to the curfew, a few of the girls informed me that they found it absurd.

They suggested they would take my place if I wanted to step out.

I concluded that they were correct, but I felt we didn’t need to maintain the secrecy.

I didn’t want to create conflict by lying or keeping things hidden, so I mentioned that there’s no need to openly inform Anna, but if she inquires, then please be truthful.

I didn’t want to create a disagreement between us, but I also can’t stay in my apartment every night because one person doesn’t approve of my friends.

That evening, I went out and encountered a guy from my class.

We took a stroll to a more remote part of the campus, where our professor mentioned we might spot a few less common types of wildlife.

I was away for approximately 2 hours.

Anna is overly controlling.

When I returned, Anna was standing by the entrance.

I attempted to speak with her, but she only replied, “I’m not angry, just disappointed” (which caused a few of the girls to laugh because Anna makes a point of projecting that motherly vibe). Anna hasn’t spoken to me ever since.

Now it’s tense.

She is obviously angry at me for violating the rule, even though it wasn’t something the group had agreed upon, and no one else backed it.

I made an effort to consider her emotions, but I believe it’s going too far to control who I interact with or when I leave.

She has no reason to apologize.

I sent her a message to apologize for violating the rule without discussing it with her first, but she continues to avoid me.

I truly don’t want this to create any uncomfortable situations for everyone, especially since we’ll be living together.

Is it wrong for me to not adhere to the bedtime she tried to set?

Anna believes she is in control of everyone and requires clarification that this is not true.

What an odd scenario to find oneself in.

Continue reading to find out what the commenters have to say about it.

She doesn’t require approval from a roommate.

This reviewer is absolutely correct.

None of them are behaving in a mature manner.

This user states that she should not have consented to this.

It’s difficult to imagine someone being so inactive.

This roommate is mistaken in believing she has the authority to set these rules.

The correct reaction is to laugh at her and continue with your life.

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