DEAR SUSAN: There are indeed timid individuals among both men and women—just as there are confident ones within these groups too. It’s important we recognize that being shy doesn’t inherently equate to needing correction. Being reserved can have positive aspects, much as excessive assertiveness has drawbacks. In our quest to stay true to who we naturally are amidst societal pressures toward uniformity, let us avoid encouraging anyone to act contrary to their inherent nature. Instead of pushing for conformity, perhaps we could foster acceptance where all voices are heard, every difference acknowledged, and personal uniqueness celebrated. Could two introverted people—a bashful man and a reticent woman—not find great fulfillment together?
DEAR READER: Indeed, indeed, and absolutely! It’s fully within reach for two introverted individuals to maintain their reserved nature yet discover methods of connecting that foster profound intimacy. However, as you might have anticipated, this works effectively solely when both partners recognize and accept each other’s reticence, committing themselves to nurturing and intensifying their bond. Such a level of emotional maturity demands a couple with exceptional sensitivity and comprehension, making it exceedingly unlikely in our fast-paced society for such compatible souls to come together.
It should be noted that my suggestion for self-improvement applies only when your shyness restricts your daily activities and makes you feel uneasy during social interactions.
It appears to me that when your shyness starts hindering your social interactions and other aspects of life, it may be wise to employ strategies preemptively—tactics aimed at curbing an overwhelming sense of self-consciousness. I am not condemning shyness itself. However, once it begins restricting your experiences, it could be worthwhile to take action.
DEAREST READER: The Pew Research Center recently shared data indicating that in our nation, the typical age for an individual’s initial wedding is currently at its peak — standing at 27 years old for women and 29 years old for men. By now, you’re probably aware that I have numerous reflections on this intriguing statistic, though I’ll reserve those insights for a future discussion — coming shortly. I am eager to hear what you make of these figures! Should they spark some commentary from you, please drop me an email.
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